Helping your partner see why homebirth is safe!
Homebirth isn't just trending or designated for crunchy moms, if you need some help navigating that with your partner, then this episode is for you! 😉
Here's an overview of this episode:
I give you 10 tips on how to help your partner to see why homebirth is a great choice
How to include your partner in this decision.
What outside support you can utilize
How you can compromise
🔥 If I had a redo, you bet your 🍑 I'd have a homebirth and I'd use this exact method to help my husband see how this is a safe and reasonable choice!
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My name is Petra. I am a birth doula, birth educator, and placenta encapsulation specialist. I'm a mom of four. So I'm here today to talk about home birth. And specifically, I want to talk about how to bring up home birth with your partner when they're not on board. So specifically what I want to talk about today is So, I'm going to be talking about how to get your partner on board with the idea of having a home birth when they think that it's not the best idea.
So, this can be a very sticky subject because a lot of people have very strong opinions either way on home birth and hospital birth. So I want to give you a little background. Home birth is not just for The crunchy, hippie people, and it's not just a trend. Home birth actually used to be the norm. Like, nobody gave birth in hospitals up until about 1914.
That's when the first maternity ward was created in hospital. So, before that, nobody gave birth out, like, inside the hospital. Everybody gave birth at home, like, attended by their family or attended by a midwife. So, You know, it's not unreasonable to want a home birth. I get it. I wanted one too. I didn't end up doing it, but I wish, you know, if I could go back, I definitely would.
Um, so I want to, I want to give you 10, um, kind of tips or steps that you can take in order to try to get your partner on board. And now I'm not here to tell you like you need to convince them, but if this is really something that's important to you or you feel like it's something your heart is telling you to do.
Thank you. Then these steps can definitely help you in, you know, helping your partner understand where you're coming from. So, number one, research. So start by doing your research about home births, like thorough research, gather information about the safety and benefits of home birth, and be prepared to share all of this with your partner.
Having evidence based facts can help alleviate their concerns. It doesn't even need to be evidence based either. Like if you find somebody on like a Facebook group or something and they had an amazing experience, you can gather a few people's experiences and stories and then you can also use those as information or research or whatever.
Um, number two, have an open line of communication. Initiate those open and honest and raw conversations with your partner. That might be a little hard to have. Um... Express your desire for home birth and the reasons behind it. Give your partner the opportunity to express their own thoughts, concerns, and fears as well, because everybody wants to feel like what they're feeling or thinking is valid.
So having that open line of communication with your partner is key. key. Um, number three, involve them in decision making. So obviously make it a joint decision. Let your partner know that of course their input matters and that you want to make this choice together because you're a team, you're a couple and this can help or what can help is discussing both the pros and cons of home birth together.
That way you can make an informed decision together. Uh, number four is take a home birth specific birth education course. Don't take a hospital birth education course. Take a home birth specific one. Um, and whether that be in person or online, um, a quick Google search will bring you to those. I'll also drop a couple of links below, um, on some that I suggest.
Um, so these classes often cover different, like, birth options and they can provide like a balanced view of what home birth can look like in different situations and scenarios. Um, so number five, meet with a midwife. And obviously if you're considering a home birth, make sure that it is a home birth midwife because there is a difference between a hospital midwife and a home birth midwife.
So meet with that qualified midwife who specializes in home birth. Because they've attended already so many home births, they can address your partner's concerns and help provide some type of reassurance from their personal experience as a midwife attending other home births. Um, number six, address different safety concerns.
Because obviously nobody wants anything to happen to their baby and safety always comes top of mind when somebody is concerned about home birth. So discuss the safety measures that will be in place during your home birth, such as having a trained home birth midwife present, having access to medical equipment, um, and planning for emergencies.
So different types of emergencies you can have plans for. That way, if something does end up happening, you're not blindsided and it's not like this over the top crazy situation because you planned for it. So plan putting together a home birth kit, um, together, and typically if you are going to hire a home birth midwife, they typically do give you like a list of what they suggest you have in your home to prepare for your home birth.
So preparing that home birth kit together can help to, you know, involve them in this birth process. Um, so number eight, visit a birth center. So if your partner is still hesitant about a home birth, this can actually be like a middle ground option because a home birth is like, it can be a home like setting.
With medical support nearby. Typically home births are only a few miles away from a hospital. So you know you can also know that if you are at a birth center, you can easily and quickly get to a hospital. So this can be a compromise that you guys discuss if home birth is, you know, out of the question for them completely.
Um, number nine is seek support. So encourage your partner to talk to other fathers or partners who have actually supported home births already because hearing, like I've already mentioned before, like hearing about their experiences might provide them with Some insight that you might have not been able to provide.
Um, and it could help with reassuring them that home birth is not crazy. You know, home birth is safe and it's a reasonable choice. And number 10, you know, ultimately it's important to respect your partner's choice and where they're coming from. Um, especially if they're very uncomfortable with this idea, because this can affect your birth experience if they are uncomfortable and uneasy.
throughout your birth experience. Um, so, you know, I feel like it's important to address and respect their concerns, but also, you know, ultimately this is your body. Um, you're going to be the one that's experiencing labor through your body, you know? So if you feel like this is on your heart to really go for home birth, You know, seek out different resources, such as a therapist.
Go see a therapist with your partner. Go see them together so that you guys can try to figure out how to navigate the situation. Um, because a therapist might also have different insight as an outside third party source, um, that could help you navigate this, this area without creating tension or issues in your relationship.
So, you know, I really hope that these tips have helped you in, you know, providing some type of guidance towards having that home birth and getting your partner on board for your home birth. Um, if you would like to connect with me deeper or you want to chat more about this, uh, specific topic, go ahead and get me on Instagram at birthing come true.
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